Thursday, February 5, 2009

An unfortunate development

I had very mild symptoms of a cold from Sunday evening to Tuesday morning. Yesterday I felt OK, and was with Loki. Overnight, the mild symptoms returned. We spoke with Loki's nurse by phone this morning, and she was very clear that the policy is "cold or flu symptoms = no NICU," and is not flexible. Thus, neither Mom nor I will see Loki today, the day of his surgery.

Part of me felt that I should have made the decision on my own. After all, my symptoms are mild, and a person is contagious only early during a cold. But we must respect the policy; and the risk to Loki may be unlikely but the consequences would be great; and other babies could be put at risk as well. What if, for example, I now have a new, different cold, and am contagious again?

Needless to say, this is absolutely heart-wrenching. To imagine that Loki will not have seen his mom for at least three days, and me only one of those days, and then has surgery. But I don't see any other options here.

Update (10:30 AM): The surgery should begin between 1 to 3 PM. It should last "up to a few hours." I spoke with both Loki's nurse and a resident urologist who saw him, and they both said that Loki looks very content, napping and listening to Mom's recorded voice. She reads stories and sings songs in both English and Dutch. My favorite is On the Day You Were Born.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Oh, how unlucky are you! It must be heartbreaking for you both not being able to be with Loki on this day.
We will lit a candle for Loki and think of him this evening (in holland the time is 7:50 PM). Hope you feel better real soon!!
love, Maaike

Suzan said...

Dear mom and dad,

We think about you all. This is not nice! It must be so hard for you! Poor little Loki! I'm sure mom's voice will help him a lot. I'll make wishes for you all.

Much love,
Suzanna

Anonymous said...

We feel so sorry for you guys. Too bad you can't be there with your son. We'll keep the candles burning for you. Recovery is on its way. We continu sending tons of energy and love!
Oma Heleen en frits

About Loki Sky

Loki Sky is a special little man. He was a very early micropreemie, weighing only 610 grams (1 lb, 5 oz) after 24 weeks, 3 days gestation, born to an American Father and a Dutch Mother in Berkeley, California on October 18, 2008.

On January 11, 2009, while still in the hospital NICU, his one kidney stopped working. It was repaired after three surgeries. After spending time in three hospitals in three cities, Loki came home on February 17. He struggled with eating, and then stopped in July, leading to 8 days in the hospital, a failure-to-thrive diagnosis, and a NG feeding tube. On October 10, a minor surgery installed a G feeding tube. Another procedure replaced it with a new one, and then again with a Mic-Key button in Jan. 2010.

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